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How do I survive this chapter of my life?

My mom is 80 years old. She has early stages of dementia. My dad is 79 years old. I live with them at home. I suffer from brittle type 1 diabetes since age 12. I also have kidney failure and am on dialysis treatment three days a week for 4… Read More

Which public restroom should I use when I have to help my husband?

I am a caretaker for my husband with dementia. He is 87 years of age, blind and has trouble walking. When he needs to go potty and we are in public, how do I take him to potty. In the women rest room or what? This really bothers me but… Read More

Friends think my Mom is doing better than she really is. What do I say?

My mother has dementia and presently has been staying with me for a couple of weeks. One thing I find very frustrating is when people call her or drop in to see her, she seems very well & lucid (which is good) and can carry on a great conversation for… Read More

Mom says she doesn’t like her aide, but I’m burning out. Now what?

What do I do when my mother says she does not like the aide because she is rude to her and treats her like a child. Do other people have a hard time finding a good aide? My mom needs 24/7 care and I am burning out. – Susie Susie,… Read More

Is it normal to fall out of love with your spouse?

I am the caregiver for my husband who has dementia. I’ve been caring for him for 3 years. He doesn’t talk to me unless I say something to him; he only gives a quick answer. There is no conversation. I feel like I live with a dead person. I don’t… Read More

My husband acts out beyond my ability to control him. What can I do?

My husband is 93, I am 87, and he is in good physical health with 10 yrs of the disease. What can I do when he acts out beyond my ability to control his anxiety and anger? -Etta Etta, you are to be commended for taking care of your dear husband for… Read More

A resident tries to hurt us when we visit my mom. What should I do?

When we go to visit mom, there’s a lady that tries to hurt us. It is hard not to defend yourself, and there’s not always an aide around. Suggestions? This can be dangerous and needs to be addressed right away with the facility manager. If you do not get a… Read More

How can I stop Mom from saying “Help me. Help me.”?

My mom has gotten into the habit of saying “Help me. Help me” over and over again. We ask her what is wrong and she says nothing. Then goes back to saying it again. This can go on for hours. How can we stop this from happening? This is a… Read More

How do I respond to my 82-year-old mom who thinks she has young children?

How do I respond to my 82-year-old mom who thinks she has young children? Sometimes we have to go look for them and other times she wants to purchase clothing. There is no simple answer for dealing with a loved one who is hallucinating or having delusions. Please reassure your… Read More

Do Alzheimer’s patients feel pain?

Do full onset Alzheimer’s patients feel pain as normal patients would? My mother broke her hip yesterday and docs aren’t giving her pain meds because she doesn’t “seem” to be in pain. We will not be surgically repairing her hip, but I worry about her pain level. She is virtually… Read More